All human beings are driven by an instinctive need for connection
I have been profoundly influenced by Attachment Theory, which posits that all human beings are driven by an instinctive need for connection – an idea supported by recent findings in neurobiological research. We do not develop or thrive as separate entities. Rather, we become who we are within important relationships, and we make sense of our environment through our experiences with others. Prizing human connection can seem counterintuitive in a culture that values independence, self-sufficiency, and individual achievement above all else. Though each of us has felt the unique pain of isolation and disconnection, we often doubt ourselves for having this natural human need to connect.
I see individuals within the framework of their important relationships, past and present. I work to strengthen connections and promote healing both within and between individuals. As an emotionally-focused therapist, I view emotions as a rich and meaningful source of information about our selves and our relationships, an impetus for new awareness and a catalyst for growth and change. I trust the inherent wisdom of emotional experience, and the power of emotional responses to enhance intelligence and learning, spur you toward action, organize key relationships and facilitate the development of new narratives in your life.
EFT draws on the basic principle that we cannot move on from a place where we have never arrived. Until we have reclaimed disowned experience, we cannot change or be changed by that experience. Therapy provides a valuable opportunity to experience aspects of ourselves we have not consciously felt, or may have previously disclaimed, suppressed, or pushed away. Emotionally-focused therapy is not a process of learning about emotions, but a process whereby discovery and change emerge as a result of new emotional experiences in the safety of the therapy session.